Let’s not pretend like this doesn’t happen. Two people, a quiet moment, and then someone drops the “wanna just jerk off?” line. It may sound weird, but it’s not. From awkward teenage messes to adult experiments on mutual masturbation sites, there’s a long, unspoken history behind the idea to jack off together. So why does it still feel taboo?

The truth is, most people never got a rulebook on how to jerk off with others without it getting super awkward. That’s what we’re doing here. It’s for people who are curious about how to masturbate together!

Jack Off Together With Comfort, Not Pressure

No one wants to feel like they're walking into a weird challenge round. If you’re going to masturbate with someone, it has to feel comfortable from the jump, even if it’s experimental. You’re both probably wondering the same thing: “Is this okay?” or “Are we going to make it weird?”

You don’t have to get completely naked right away. You don’t even have to talk dirty. It could just be, “I’m turned on, wanna do something?” Some people are better at this over a screen than in person. That’s where places like Jerkmate.com make things easier. The pressure fades because the format makes it feel more like entertainment than performance.

¿ Try To Masturbate With People In Different Settings

Not every jerk off partner situation looks the same. You could be:

• Side by side on a couch during a late-night hang

• Across from each other on webcam

• Messaging dirty stuff until one of you says “I’m touching myself”

• Lying in bed together without actual sex

What matters is finding your zone. Some people like lights off. Some keep their shirts on. Some need background noise (TV, music, you name it). Others like full silence. 

But if you’re doing it in person, have tissues or towels nearby. It sounds obvious, but nothing breaks the chill like scrambling for napkins mid-orgasm.

What You Should Say To Your Jerk Off Partner

You don’t need a full commentary. But silence also kills the mood if you’re clearly watching each other.

Try these:

• “That’s hot.”

• “You look good like that.”

• “I’m close.”

And avoid:

• “You’re doing it wrong.”

• “Faster, faster, faster.” (Unless it’s begged for.)

• Over-explaining your technique.

One key to good masturbation together is listening to cues. If they’re slowing down, match that pace. If they suddenly cover up, back off.

When Many People Jack Off Together

Doing it one-on-one is the most common, but jerking off with other people in a group setting exists too. Yeah, it can sound like some frat-boy fantasy, but it happens quite often. 

Sometimes it’s in person, sometimes it starts online. People join video chats, group calls, or even connect on apps like OneNightFriend. That casual space makes asking about one on one masturbation feel less weird. You start talking, the vibe clicks, and suddenly you're both into the same kink.

There’s no one way to do it, but if you’re masturbate with people in a group, it helps to lay down a few ground rules:

• Is touching allowed or is this strictly no-contact?

• Are cameras or phones allowed?

• Can you talk or is this quiet?

Having boundaries makes things less creepy. “Can I watch?” isn’t a rude question if the space is open. Neither is “I’d rather not be recorded.” The more clear you are, the better the experience.

¿ Online Jerk Off Sessions That Don’t Suck

Let’s say you’ve got no in-person buddy. No problem. You can still jerkoff with others online. But random cam sites can get weird fast unless you know where to look.

Here’s what helps:

• Use a site with identity filters. You don’t want to get matched with someone 40 years older if you’re not into that.

• Keep a second device nearby if you want to multitask (like watching something else while jerking off together).

• Always ask before screen recording. If you don’t plan to, say that. It helps build comfort.

• Don’t fake climax noises or do over-the-top porn grunts. Be real. You’re not being scored.

• If the person disappears after nutting, don’t take it personally. Ghosting happens, even with your pants down.

Some regulars even have a rotation of jerk off partners they message when horny. CamSoda.com has users who are basically pros at showing how masturbation together can be fun without needing to be porn-star intense. It’s like sexting, but it ends in one on one masturbation instead of a dry inbox. 

When You’re into It but Your Jerk Off Partner Is Shy

This is where it gets a little delicate. Maybe you’re into the idea. You’ve done it before. But now, you’re with someone new, and they’ve never tried to masturbate with someone before. Don’t push.

Instead, try:

• “I’ve done this before, it can actually be kind of hot.”

• “No pressure, but it’s something I enjoy and thought I’d share.”

• “Even if we just start clothed and see how it feels, that’s cool.”

Let them get used to the idea. Don’t jump to jack off together if they’re hesitating. If it doesn’t happen, it’s fine. A “no” doesn’t mean “never.” 

¿ Stuff That Can Ruin It Fast

Let’s break the mood killers down, so you know what to avoid:

• Too much porn playing in the background

• Making it competitive (it’s not a speed round)

• Laughing at the other person’s technique

• Trying to switch to sex without asking

• Weird angles on webcam (get your lighting right!)

You don’t have to be sexy all the time, but you do want to be present. If it feels like you’re miles apart emotionally, it stops being fun.

When You Jerk Off With a Friend

This one’s tricky. You’re not dating. You’re just close. And now there’s a new level to the friendship.

First, make sure it doesn’t become a weird secret. Talk about it after. Seriously. And don’t expect it to turn into more unless it’s clear you both want that.

Masturbation together with a friend doesn’t have to ruin anything. In fact, it can strengthen trust. Just don’t let silence or shame sneak in. If it happened and felt good, own it.

Final Word

There’s no perfect way to jerk off with other people, but there are a lot of decent ones. If you go in with openness, care, and a bit of humor, you’ll probably be fine. Don’t overthink every move. Don’t perform. Just show up, be present, and enjoy it for what it is—real connection, horny or not.

And hey, if you’re curious to explore without pressure, mutual masturbation sites can be the easiest way to try it out with people who are into the same thing.